UNREQUITED LOVE

UNREQUITED LOVE

Until recently, I had avoided online shopping for obvious reasons. Good thing is that Internet orders are a fit better today than before due to standardization of features and regionalization of the features. To make it clear, a size S in USA for example could be XXXL in Kunming kingdom of the little people. That means that a better understanding of feature region stories makes online shopping more pleasant. Increasingly also are online orders for love, some of which have found fitting deliveries. For lack of experience in this regard, I cannot recommend online shopping for a partner, but I don't think it harms to try especially if, a better fit has not been found in local shops. Enough already spoken about online stuff, let's talk a little about real love, real people and suitable fitting features. Let's call her Eddah. She was tall and beautiful. I was already working for a year or two after college and she seemed to tick all the boxes of a girl of my dreams. I used to call her many times every week. We went to several fun events that I recommended together. She had graduated from college and was doing her probation in a district Hospital in what is now Murang'a county. Alas!!!! The things that the boychild goes through in this country in an effort to bring the queen home!!!... are simply unbelievable! These love stories are sometimes a scandal. Imagine the calls, the dates and even doing visits to Murang'a!! .. That was okay but the effort was unnoticed to her, and the favours were not being returned. She even called me very rarely. Texts or calls should have been easy, so I thought. Good thing is that I gave up before giving it too much painful effort. I let her go. So that was where I began to learn to respect myself a little bit more. I learnt that in all relationships, a give must always be followed by a take. You can't just be the giver throughout when the other person is a perpetual taker. Don't be a fool. Stop giving if you are not receiving. It cannot be that you are always the one calling, always the one inviting, always the one visiting them. You can't always be the one to check on them. If you have being in a one-sided friendship or relationship, please stop to see if they will return the favour. If they don’t, then wait until it happens even if it is forever. Respect yourself. Even at a couple's happy place, an attempt by only one party to make love ends up not enjoyable for both. And worse still, the unhoneyed unwilling party may later feel aggrieved and could win a case against the partner for forced honey eating escapade. Law has absurd tendencies but that is how grave unreciprocated love can get. I won't talk of ladies who are always giving their men money, opening businesses for them, taking loans for them....and the men seem not to be doing anything in return.... let’s not talk about that today.

The practice of reciprocity frees someone’s life and saves time that is usually wasted on people who we waste time and other resources on. There is no better person to learn reciprocity from than God in Proverbs 8:17 that says, 'I love those who love me, And those who seek me diligently will find me.' Need I say more?

@ Stephen Mungai